Cooking and Housekeeping In a Construction Zone

It helps if you trick yourself into thinking you are camping, I’m not gonna lie. 

We are trickling into our 12th week with no kitchen, our 13th week of construction, which is long enough that when we borrowed a friend’s house in New Hampshire for a weekend in back in October, I brought all the supplies to make meatballs because I was just so excited at the idea of a sink, a stove and counter space, all in the same place.  

Luxury.  

Going into this process, we were told we would be 10-12 weeks without a kitchen.  In reality, it’s going to be about 20 weeks all in. Straight through the holidays, which is heartbreaking to me.  But here we are, and the only way out is through.  

The framing is done, the roof is on, and while it is still a shell of a house on the back with zipper walls to keep the front living quarters warm, we are making so much progress.

The construction, excited though we are, is moving along but also is definitely grinding a little on us.  For weeks now the driveway and surrounds to the house have just been mud, mud mud.  

And we’ve been writing checks, a lot of checks.  It’s pretty overwhelming.

Everything everywhere all at once, that’s what this is.  Still, we chose this, and we knew that we were going to be walking a line financially to get all of this done.  

With some more time to go before chaos of the house being pulled apart ends,and  the house starts to be slowly put back together, we’re in it for the long haul because at this point, there’s nothing we can do about it. 

We’re trying to just breathe through it every day. 

One thing we haven’t done much of is eat out, or switch to paper plates.  So far our system of washing things in the bathroom sink and cooking in is working pretty well.  While we packed up our crock pot, and it’s pretty good and buried in our storage space, I  found an early Black Friday deal at Kohl’s for $17 for a 5 quart crock pot, which is coming in handy as it starts to get colder. While I hate to spend money for a thing we already have, it’s worth it if it means we get through this part without a ton of take out. 

My husband has been carrying most of the load of cooking during the week, and I do much of the meal planning and weekend cooking, We’ve’ve been eating pretty well.  A lot of one pan meals or food on the grill, of course, and certainly there are some things that are easier than others to do, but so far, so good. 

Like Instant Pot Beef Bourguignon – this is a household favorite, and while beef prices are omg high, it makes quite a few meals, and we can freeze a portion or two for later.  It’s a cozy treat, and I’ll slice, saute and freeze the leftover mushrooms for a later meal.  We had that about 2 weeks ago and it was delicious.  


We’ve been trying to carve back on our grocery spending, but it is hard when we’re having to flex our plans for so long. 

My sister brought us tons of potatoes, onions, spaghetti and butternut squash and sweet potatoes from upstate NY, so we are incorporating those into our meals. Every now and again I stock up at Costco as well, and add to that the regular grocery shops, our winter share – there’s 2 more distributions – and our meat share, and we’re doing pretty great.   

Here’s what we have to cook with right now:

  • A 2 burner hot plate loaned by a friend.  This is a great tool that we use on the daily
  • A small older microwave that we’re hoping doesn’t die before we get a kitchen back
  • Grill with a single burner, so if we need something to cook faster or hotter than the hot plate we use that.  Downside – on the porch, and it’s November in New England
  • A rice cooker – this thing is 20 years old, sees use multiple times a week and has for years, and is just absolutely the best kitchen tool.  We buy rice in 15-lb bags and eat through it several times a year.
  • An Ooni pizza oven, a gift to Eli some years ago.  While it’s a bit of setup and work, the option to have homemade pizza is lovely.
  • The coffee pot, without which we would not function.
  • An electric tea kettle.  We love it and use it constantly.
  • An instant pot.  Ours died 2 weeks after our kitchen was demolished and my neighbor gifted us hers for free.
  • A crock pot – we accidentally packed ours up and can’t find it in storage, so we replaced it with a $17 5-quart version last week

So look, we’re not short of options.  While it’s not ideal to be prepping in the living room and washing plates in the bathroom sink, we’re eating pretty well and everything is staying pretty clean.  I mean, we’re in a construction zone, so the floors outside of our living spaces, ugh, but otherwise we’re in good shape.  I vacuum every day, we try to wipe down surfaces and the 1 sink all the time, and every couple weeks the bathroom gets deep cleaned.  The floors get wiped down a lot as well, but keeping them clean is the hardest part.  I took some pictures of the living room/pantry/prep area/dining area as well as the bathroom  to help show what we’re doing. 

So what are we eating this week in our little construction zone?

Use up: Grapes, Tomatoes, Cucumber, Cabbage, leftovers

Sunday: Skillet Ravioli Lasagna & Fattoush Salad

Monday: Our busiest day, Eli Cooks
Tuesday: TBD, just us

Wednesday: Slow Cooker Sausage and Potato Soup (it calls for kale but we’re out so I’ll add spinach at the end)

Thursday: Rachael Travels, Eli Cooks
Friday: Rachael brings home dinner from NYC’s Chinatown – Mei Lei Wah’s famous Pineapple Pork Buns and some other good stuff.  I’ll also bring home some bagels.
Saturday: The forecast says some weather is coming, so of course, soup.  Probably chicken tortilla soup in the crock pot – everyone likes it, and add some rice and croutons and it’s a comforting and delicious meal for a cold night
Sunday: Eli CooksMonday: Chili and Eli’s Corn Bread

Zen Amongst The Chaos

Reimagining Sithean Part 2 – Transformation

It’s a quiet Sunday morning in the back half of October, the beginning of week 6 of construction.  Other than a couple of quiet weekends our life has been moving at double-time for months now, and we really don’t stop until November.  This weekend has been errand-heavy, and today we’ve got to get the house tidier in between commitments.  The fair is over in our town, and the weather is starting to get chillier at night. 

The back half of the house has been gutted for over a month, the vast majority of the excavation is done, and part of the foundation walls are up.  We’re about 2 weeks away from new windows and replacement of our current furnace with a new hydro heating/cooling system.  Our existing windows, the ones with the handblown mullions, will be saved aside and likely turned into stained glass over the next several years.  

Our living room is kitchen, dining room, pantry and living room combined, and we have one functioning sink and shower for the whole house.  When they gutted the upstairs bathroom they left us the toilet so we have that at least.  Eli’s studio and our bedroom are filled with clutter and clothes, because there’s not enough places to put things. 

I don’t like clutter, so it’s a lot sometimes, but we’re dealing with it. 

The kids rooms are generally intact, and the zipper walls keep out most of the dust on our side of the house, at least for now.  While it’s weird, it’s surprisingly not awful.  An inconvenience, rather than a problem, living in a construction zone.  

And it’s fascinating to watch the transformation up close.  We have an amazing team, too.  Our excavator, Jacob, who is magically turning a dirt pile into a house shape.  Our lead carpenter, Ryan who keeps everything moving.  Colin, who patiently explains the construction as it happens.  The foundation guys, whose names we don’t know because they are quiet and refuse our efforts to bring them cold drinks, walking atop 9 foot tall foundation forms like they are stilts.  Alan, the master plumber and Dana, his assistant.  We get the sense that they are as committed to this project as we are. 

Artisans, all of them.  I have endless respect for people who can build things, can take a drawing and turn it into reality.  It’s one of the things that drew me to Eli. 

Throughout the process, the folks who have worked with us to painstakingly make every choice have been wonderful, from the supply folks who took us through faucets and shower heads, and then found less-expensive versions when necessary, to the flooring folks who pressured us not at all and instead showed us flooring that we immediately fell in love with.  We have been so blessed to really like these folks, and we can’t wait to invite them all back when we’re finished so they can see what their hard work has wrought.  

So far we’ve had over $19k in extra infrastructure costs, from burial of the propane tank to having to move a water line and pour one wall of the foundation higher than planned.  I’m guessing there’s a little more out there – none of it the ‘fun’ stuff, but all of it things that will make the house what it needs to be.  

The unknowns financially scare us, but we’re rolling with them one at a time, and rolling with this whole crazy ride one day at a time.  There’s nothing else we can do – the kitchen is gutted, the things for the house are ordered, there’s a giant pit in our backyard – this is happening, and we’ll figure it out.  Every time I get freaked out I remind myself that we have a 100% success rate of figuring it out in our lives so far.  That’s not bad.

We are renting 2 storage spaces for all the things, but we’re hoping to consolidate to 1 by mid-December when the stove gets moved to our kitchen.  Very early on we made the decision to have everything we needed to buy – light fixtures, cabinet handles, fittings – in storage and staged so that when the time came to install there was no mad rush to stores.  By and large, we’ve done that, with just one light fixture, chosen but left to buy, as we are cash flowing our purchases.


Similarly, we’re almost done picking paint colors, several months in advance.  In most cases we’ve gone with soft creams, but with bursts of color – deep green with dark grey trim and a slightly lighter green ceiling in the hallway and mudroom, my office ceiling will be Benjamin Moore’s Tapestry Gold, a rich yellow that reminds me of autumn leaves, paired with softer walls in Benjamin Moore’s Rich Cream.  The kitchen cabinets are Farrow and Ball’s Down Pipe, a dark grey that has both green and blue undertones. 

And we’ve bought richly colored wallpapers for the powder room, the upstairs hall bathroom and the master bath.  A particularly fun find for the upstairs hallway was Mind the Gap’s The Station View wallpaper, which makes me delighted every time I think about it.  Another fun find was Claret & Key, wallpaper in which you get to pick the ‘season’ color scheme – there are 4 for every pattern, and then the background color, of which there are over 35.  

The only room we truly had design help with was the kitchen, so we’ve been mentally putting all our choices together, but I think we’ve done a pretty good job.  

We’re cooking in 99% of the time, between instant pot, air fryer, grill, and hot plate.  The crock pot got packed in the mad dash to get the kitchen emptied when it was demolished a week ahead of schedule, so we’ll probably not see that until we move back in.  We’ve spent more on groceries than I had originally planned to, but I think we’ll see that temper itself shortly. 

While dinners are not frequently fancy, they occasionally are.  Eli has taken our camp cooking situation as a challenge and has turned out some truly amazing meals.  The salsa, salsa verde, jam and various and assorted items we preserved in the freezer, like pesto, peaches, shredded zucchini and raspberries this summer are coming in handy.  

The other night I came home from a work trip to homemade black bean soup and cornbread cooked on the grill.  Last night we cooked some hamburger with onion combined that with pumpkin ravioli, pesto, toasted almonds and parmesan. 

We’re hardly suffering. 

These are the golden hours, watching the home we dreamed about be created.  Every piece and part, every color, every fitting will have been chosen by us.  While it’s not our hands doing most of the building, it’s our creation – from my inspiration to build out in an L-shape, to Eli manifesting that in a 3-D model, the changes we worked through of that model due to budget constraints – everything in this house will be made for us.  That’s an astounding thought, and sometimes to me, it feels like too much – that I’m too fortunate, that no one should be this lucky. 

I remember our first day here, after days of traveling – both filled with adventure and exhaustion. My Mom took the trip with us, and I will be grateful for her presence for the rest of my days. 

That first morning, the kids found their way straight to – and we named – Oona, the eminently climbable mother-tree in the backyard before even eating breakfast.  My son’s melt down when the promised playset arrived in pieces and boxes in the pouring rain because I couldn’t build it right then and there, and them pulling up their chairs and watching their father put it together, because we both agreed despite our divorce that our childen needed home.  I remember watching the magical landscape change, and that June watching flowers drift across the driveway from the Honey Locust that is our fairy tree, home to the fairies that Sithean, The Fairy Hill, is named for.  Eli’s first visits, and eventually permanent arrival, our missing piece. 

It hasn’t all been delightful – a 70 foot pine tree fell on the house our first autumn here, I lost a job, we lost people we love, and animals we love. We’ve had financial challenges, mental health challenges, all of it, but we’ve come out the other side, every time.   

And life is changing now.  The kids are growing up, life is busier and more complicated.  Never again will they crawl across the snow after a storm, pretending to be foxes.  We are slowly packing away their childhoods while we pack away the house for the renovations.  It’s a little sad at times, but also delightful to watch them grow up. 

But it’s still magic.  I feel like my life has been an endless series of transformations, and here we are in another chrysalis of change.  And my children will carry the magic of this place with them always, no matter how they evolve. 

I can’t wait to see what’s next. 

An Autumn to Remember

The weather is still warm, but we’ve started to roll into Autumn.  The leaves are turning, and lovely, and the nights are cooler.  The transformation of the trees never ceases to amaze me.

So too is Sithean transforming.  We are heading into our 3rd week of renovation, with about 27 or so weeks to go – to date only demolition and a lot of time with our truly lovely work crew.  

Our living room has become our pantry, kitchen and living room.  The porch, intact for now, holds our grill, which is used almost nonstop these days, especially the burner on the side – we have a hot plate, but if we really need to cook something stovetop style, that’s our best bet.  The good news is that we have a lot of appliances – our rice cooker and instant pot, already in heavy rotation with a kitchen, now are used nearly daily without.

It’s like camping.  The downstairs bathroom, the only one that will not be renovated, is the sink for all things water. 

And we’re still packing things up.  This weekend it was the hall closet – the new flooring will go into it, so it has to be emptied- as well as our son’s closet and bedroom, which we are simultaneously working on as he has begun to seriously outgrow his bunk bed.

Yesterday I grocery shopped at Hmart, Costco and Whole Foods, because this Friday starts off the fair in our town, and other than getting milk or a few things here and there, we’re basically locked in through mid-month.  We have been dedicatedly eating down the pantry and freezers, but that had to slow so that we can plan on a couple of weekends with limited access beyond our home. 

We love the fair, and that family gathers with us for opening night, it’s truly an event for us.  This year our home is not really conducive to family gatherings, but by next year it will be.  Other than a few paint colors left to pick and a single light fixture left to purchase, there’s not much left to choose – at this point, we are just in a waiting game to see what it looks like in real life.  While the decision fatigue has been sometimes real, and at times construction planning was a second full time job, that work is almost done.  

We are still packing things up and moving them around, but that too, should be done in a few weeks.  Which is not to say that when we wrap that up it won’t be the end of a long, exhausting marathon, but we have to empty and clean these spaces anyway.  And of course, once we’re done there will be more cleaning and moving things around and moving them back in, but that’s ok.  One day at a time right now.

In general, it’s not terrible. Cluttered and dusty?  Sure.  But we have a small table set up in the living room we can eat at, and our meals are good so far.  We like camping, and this is like that. 

Last night I cobbled together a pound of chicken, sauteed onions, garlic and poblano peppers, a pint of salsa verde, a cup of chicken broth and some seasonings and put them in the instant pot for 20 minutes, then added a little parmesan, mexican cheese, and cream cheese to make a variation on Chicken Chili Verde,  and it was downright delicious.  Tonight I’ll make Instant Pot Beef Bourguignon.  

Our kitchen limitations are causing us to be more intentional, but we’re still eating off of regular plates and using cloth napkins.  At the end our budget will be very tight, but that’s nothing new either.  And we’ll have a lot of finish work to do ourselves, but that’s ok.  

And in the meantime we still have an abundance of raspberries to pick in the backyard, 3 more weeks of our summer CSA, and the simple pleasures of home – there is really something satisfying about curling up on the couch after a long day of paid work or house things and eating a delicious meal that we magicked out of our temporary kitchen.

So what are we eating this week through this long race?

Sunday: Instant Pot Beef Bourguignon & salad

Monday: Eli will make grilled chicken pita pockets, broccoli from our CSA

Tuesday: It’s just Eli and I on Tuesdays, so we make simple things in bowls.  We have some wax beans to eat from our CSA, so we’ll make those our veggies.

Wednesday:  Tortellini, spinach and chicken soup made with the roaster chicken I bought at Costco.  

Thursday: Burgers, tater tots and broccoli

Friday: Pizza with Family

Saturday: Chicken soup with rice

Maybe by week 20 we’ll be completely over this, but for now, life feels pretty good.

Reimagining Sithean Part 1: The Economics

Mama Turkey Protecting Her Babies Outside Our Kitchen Window – June 2025

Many of you know I work in the mortgage industry, but I don’t really get involved with the originations side.  That said, I have been a customer multiple times, but never in this way.


In order to renovate and add on to Sithean, we had to borrow money. A good bit actually.  And to do that, after evaluating all of the options, we went for a construction loan.  Heartbreakingly, we are giving up our 2.25% mortgage that was almost halfway paid off to do it, but it’s worth it in the long haul.

Sithean as it exists today is 1794  square feet, but very chopped up, with few closets, old windows, and very little, if any, insulation.  It’s been moved twice, so there are old cut off chimneys in the basement, half of which is dirt and bedrock – one thing about Massachusetts, rocks are inevitable, and large shelves of stone part of the challenge to digging basements.

We’ve been putting money into the house since I moved in, and more since Eli joined us in 2019, but it quickly became clear that we were dropping pebbles in a Grand Canyon of needs.  And as our family grew and the kids got older, we needed space, and if we intend to age in place, which we do, the existing configuration made that highly impractical, if not impossible.  And we have nowhere for guests, children who rebound home, or any other scenario I see as reasonably likely in the future.

We spent years, and lots of money with a local architect and just never got to a point where we had a design that worked.  We parted ways, frustrated, poorer, but much wiser and took from it the lesson that we needed to be better advocates for ourselves out of the gate, and we have.  We had ceded control to the ‘experts’ but the experts aren’t us, and they don’t have to live here. 

So that’s lesson #1, and if you ever do decide to renovate, make sure that you don’t get your needs lost in anyone else’s ideas. 

We were so at a loss on where to go next after that we even put the house on the market after that, but circumstances and love of this place overrode the idea of leaving, and so here we have stayed.  We belong here, that’s clear to us.    But renovating and adding on continued to elude us because of the cost.  No matter how hard we saved up, escalating costs for renovations and high interest rates outpaced us. 

Finally we hit a point where renovating has become a real possibility.  It’s going to cost far more than we ever dreamed, and we’ll still have some finish work to do ourselves – more on those projects later – but in the end we’ll have a home with space, storage, modern heating and cooling, the kitchen we’ve been designing for years, and a wall of doors to the backyard from our new Great Room.

We’ve finalized the budget with our builder, put deposits down with them and the kitchen cabinetry people, and started holding slabs of stone for countertops.  It took a while to get to a budget that was manageable for us and got us most of the things we prioritized, so long that we lost a rate lock with the bank.  But this time, getting it right is our priority, and figuring out a way to do it is job one.  

One thing that shocked even us was the sheer amount of money, in cash, that is required of you in a construction loan.  Plan for all the initial deposits to be you, to have a 10% reserve (although equity is sometimes permissible) of the full cost of construction, that every light fixture and piece of cabinet hardware was us we knew, but not so many other of the costs – if we wanted something we found on Etsy, our kitchen backsplash for example – it was on us.  All the appliances.  And so on. 

Even with borrowing most of the money, our table stakes will end up being well into 6 figures. 

And, I reiterate, we are borrowing most of the cost to boot. 

Somewhere along the line the construction and renovation business has become a high net worth game, and the average homeowner is locked out of anything over and above either a % of their equity, or smaller dollar home repair loans, or signing on to a builder special. 

 Which I find interesting, because the median age of the US housing inventory is 40 years old, with half of the homes being built before 1980, and 35% built before 1970.  The average age of a US home is between 42 and 51 years old, according to Statista, a statistics gathering site.  

That means the houses are old, and in need of upgrades, serious ones. 

And I’m not talking about marble bathtubs.  I’m talking about heating, cooling, insulating, sealing out rodents, and ensuring that roofs and stoves and other items are up to code, of which we have learned, is based on 2015 standards, so it’s already 10 years old. 

But who can afford to do something like what we are?  Not a lot of people.  And who can afford even to bring their house up to standard?  Even less.  It’s hard to tell how many people are considered ‘cost-burdened’ by their mortgage, but the statistics say it’s a lot, and here’s what I observe anecdotally in my area.  Since 2020, a conservative estimate says that housing prices  in Essex County, MA where I live have risen over 42%.  That means a house that was $400k in 2020 is now $568k. But in practice, at least in my area, it’s quite a bit more than that. Our home alone has increased in value by a whopping 60%. 

I would not be shocked to learn that a huge chunk of Massachusetts homeowners under the age of 50 would be considered house poor.  Overall in the US, it’s estimated that 27.4% of homeowners are cost-burdened but in April of this year the data suggested well over 34% of Massachusetts homeowners are cost-burdened.  That’s over ⅓ of every household in the state I live in that has an overwhelming mortgage or rent payment.  

So back to the aging home inventory –  if you can’t afford to tap your home equity because of the payments, assuming you didn’t buy near the height of the market and really have any equity at all, and you don’t have the cash that is required to start a construction loan…you can’t do much. 

Add to that for those of us who already owned our homes the increased value has given us a great deal of equity, but the corresponding rises in taxes has done a fair bit to offset that on a monthly basis. Insurance rates are higher too, relating to both value and the volume of natural disasters that are occuring on an annual basis.  Just in our own situation, since I refinanced in 2021, my monthly escrow payments have driven my house payment up over $1000 per month without making a single capital improvement. 

No, that’s not a joke. 

Add all those things together, and you start to notice things – even amongst the pristinely maintained houses of upper middle class and wealthier communities, you start to see things like houses that need a paint job, or roofs that have a lot of wear, or fence sections that need to be replaced just sitting empty or leaning over or drooping porches.  You still see renovations and builds, but you also start to see that cars are just a little older than they used to be too. 

Because all that extra tax, insurance and inflation money comes from somewhere.  And even amongst the well-heeled, the weeds are starting to show.  Don’t get me started on what that means for everyone else while we’re hacking away at the limited social safety net that exists here in the US.

So the economics of the housing market – especially for an armchair economist like myself are pretty fascinating, and it really is the rise in overall wealth that is keeping a lot of things moving, which is kind of worrisome in itself.  Because that too, raises the price, and the bar for the rest of us. 

For example, our builder, who is pretty chill, initially told us that we should plan on $90k per bathroom.  

Hard no. 

But what that comment tells us in simple terms is that those who are building are spending that kind of cash.  Those numbers don’t just come out of nowhere.  And I would guess that the sheer amount of money required just to come to the table deters quite a lot of people. 
Not enough for the system to change yet though. 

It is fascinating, and I’m going to keep coming back to the economics of this.  Because I think we’re teetering on the edge of something breaking pretty hard.  Which makes it intimidating to take this on, but we’ve waited and waited and saved and planned and it’s just time.  So we’re taking deep breaths and taking the plunge. 

Somewhere around late April of next year, the vast majority of the work should be done.  And in some cases, our work will be just beginning. 

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